Why is God allowing this to happen to my mother? HELP?? please take time to read this...?

or simply why does she have to suffer this MUCH?

she doesn't deserve it...



My mom is a very beautiful and kind-hearted person. I dont know what kind of person my "dad" is why is he doing this to my mom:



1.) 7 years ago my mom found out dad was cheating on her

2.) 6 years ago my dad filed divorce and LEFT NOTHING for my mom.

(I dont know how he did it FK HIM)

3.) My mom was forced to go to the States (we live in the philippines) without almost ANYTHING at all.

4.) My mom almost went crazy (and we were angry at her for leaving us, not knowing the reason) in Virginia WITHOUT ANYTHING AT ALL... she doesn't know anyone.



Suddenly, she found a job she was very good at which is taking care of kids until she became the carer of a rich lawyer's kids in new york, hired by an agent something



and was able to be in a good stable condition, with some reasonable amount of money saved and found a good man she almost married.



5.) after 5 years, (me and my siblings were still in contact with her, finally understanding the reason) My dad goes up and blackmail her (we were in his "CARE") that he got a job here in New Zealand and will take US no MATTER WHAT.



6.) She was afraid we weren't ever gonna see her again, so she left all her luxuries in New York to be with us.



When we arrived in NEW ZEALAND, we didn't even have a house to lve in. A friend of my father's offered a house but My father didn't even prepared ANYTHING at all, even blankets, AND IT WAS WINTER... he's so EVIL



later we found out that he was in a very big DEBT, about $15000 in debt.



WE HAD NO IDEA



8.) So my mother ended up spending for a whole year now, WITHOUT the support of our father, even though we live in the same house. NOW ALL OF HER SAVINGS IS GONE. ALl those 6 years of blood, sweat and tears of her being taken away from us by our father...



9.) She slapped and "beat" (if that was even beat, she was a very weak woman) my father and my father got mad at her so HE PULLED OUT HER PERMANENT RESIDENT application form....



10.) Now she has no more savings and we have nothing we can do...im so sad and angry at the world.



my mom is so sick she almost works TRIPLE SHIFT and sometimes works 18 hours a day caregiving (washing butts of old people/being a cashier) and STILL finds time and money to give her kids a vacation...





my dad never did that. He earns $4000 a month and he pays it ALL to his debts...we have nothing left for us..



now that he pulled my mother's application...my mother will go back to the philippines....we have no more house there....i have no idea what she will do, SO YOU MEAN TO SAY SHE WILL GO BACK FRAM RICHES TO RAGS AGAIN!?!?!?!??!?!





how many tiems does she have to endure this?!??!?!?!?!



















no one will answer this question properly....its too long



but i deeply DEEPLY be thankful... appreciate what u will advice me to do...









im so sick of this stuffWhy is God allowing this to happen to my mother? HELP?? please take time to read this...?
1st off the Philippines do not have divorces, so you might want to ask your mom what kind of separation she has from your dad and if she had the documentation or if it was ever recorded. Because he has the authority to pull her application it sounds to me as if they never got "divorced"

if you go here

http://www.weddingsatwork.com/culture_la鈥?/a>

The Family Code of the Philippines

If they where never really divorced then He would be required to support her when she goes back title VIII art 105. If they did get legally separated then under title II article 63 he would have no right to pull her application and she can go back and refile and explain that she is divorced and he has no rights to her papers. All though I do think that you should read over all of the stipulations for marriage on the a fore mentioned link. see if anything applies. If none of this works all he did was pull her papers for there nothing about her having to go back to the Philippines she could come back to the states and apply for citizenship. after she gets citizenship she can then file for a "real" Divorce and that would be admissible in the Philippines because she is not a Philippines citizens anymore. she could also use the us court system to sue for custody of you guys. I this helps you(oh yeah by Philippine Codes your 18 yrs old sister still can not help, she does not reach the age of majority until she is 21)
Well, everyone has there own story and It depends on how you handle it.I don't know how old are you maybe if your old enough you can help your parent's solve their problem's .

Well, about your mom she's very kind you should I think welcome her with your arms and understand her.

The best thing you can do is pray ,be strong and take courage to face everything..everything is going to be fine in no time. just to your best and love to your family.Why is God allowing this to happen to my mother? HELP?? please take time to read this...?
I wonder, how old are you and your siblings?



While you were too young at one time, it appears you are no longer too young to know what is going on. That suggests you are at least about 15 or so.



I agree with you that your mother does not deserve this, but the situation is what it is; and so must be dealt with as is.



What I would personally suggest is that you and as many of your siblings are old enough, go and start getting your own jobs. Do what you can to contribute to the household, but do not neglect your education. It is that education that may wind up saving your mother from this.



Because if you can get a good education, you can get a good job that will allow you to take care of your mother. Working now can help her pay for things, and can help you take care of yourself so you can pay for your own education. But it is your future jobs that will pay better so that you can really take care of her.



Do what you can to take care of the house as well. Keep your room clean, clean up the rest of the house when you can. This will help her greatly as well. What she needs more than anything is help with her burdens.



And when things break around the house, instead of hiring someone to fix it, perhaps going to the library and renting a book that can help you figure out the basics of home repair. That can save a lot of money as well.







I know this is kind of dry, and you also wanted more in the way of justification for your mother. I can tell you what I believe about God, but it is essentially your beliefs that matter there. I can only tell you what you can do to help her situation, not explain why she is in the situation.



But try to remember that life is what it is. It is not fair. You fight to survive, and help your family when you can. That is what your mother is doing, and she is a wonderful person for having done so. You can be the same.



Try not to lose faith. You can move mountains if you only have the faith the size of a mustard seed. Your mother already has. I have no doubt she will again. But this time, she can have your help moving those mountains.
Hi Shoopuff,



I understand how you feel now..My mom had the same situation as you before. My dad hit, scolded her and all my mom's money is given to him to gamble and for his beer addiction. I was once hit by my dad when he's drunk.



Now everything is fine because my dad is no longer in our life. My mom now retired saying that she wanted to leave alone and take care of herself. She made a lot of new friends at church leading a happy life now.



It's alright that things didnt come smooth in mom's life now. Everything will be fine later on. No one knows what would happen in the future. Support your mom more.. Let her know her children is always by her side.Why is God allowing this to happen to my mother? HELP?? please take time to read this...?
It rains on the just and unjust



at least she has her children , and you .. someone who obviously cares deeply about her . i am sorry for the situation she is in but everything happens for a reason and only God knows . what if dad didn't leave and stayed around ? he could have caused a car accident and killed you all , or burnt the house down , or done something even worse . no one knows what the outcome would be if all those negative things didn't happen . just be happy you have your life and you all have each other to care for during the hard times . last year was the worst i ever been through , my husband left for iraq and was dealing with the war for 18 months . during that time i was involved in a house fire caused by my own error , ended up with 3rd degree burns , lived at the hospital for months and did ttherapy for months as well , alot of people asked me why God allowed that to happen to me . i honestly dont know , but i do know i am glad it happened to me now and not 5 years from now when i am a mother and my child could have been in danger of it all . i am now a more carful person when it comes to cooking , fire , and other items that go with it . if i did not go through all of that and continued my careless ness what if my accidentl waiting a few years and me still being careless caused something even worse .
Sadly in this world...bad things happen to good people. Your mother seem to be a good ,strong, hard working woman...all these qualities will stand for her in the end. The only thing I can say to you is... continue to be a support to your mother , and when you are older you will be able to help her out and then things will become easier for her and the whole family. Why your father treats your mother like this...is because he has no respect for her, his children, or himself.
i'm sorry that you have to go through all these stuff and i know that i wont be able to empathise with you fully no matter how hard i try since i havent gone through these sort of things. but this is what i have to say:



firstly, you need to get rid of all the negativity and hatred towards whoever in your life (not referring to only your dad). dont know if you're a christian, but Jesus loved everyone --- whatever skin colour, whatever background. so you should live your life like Jesus did.



second, i'll have to say that you've got a very good mother, no doubt about that. she sure cares about you and your siblings very much. it might seem as if as life is at it's worst, but it's all up in your head. life is how you want to see it. take a step back and look on the brighter side: at least you have a loving mother and siblings to keep close to. you should be grateful for that cos even orphans, they may have the basic necessities of life - food and shelter - but they have lose the warmth of a family. yeah, maybe you dont have a complete family, but you have warmth - warmth in the midst of chaos. so is your mother and siblings comparable to rags? sometimes riches is not everything.



lastly, i should say that yes, God sometimes allows these things to happen. it's not us who judge people. that's why i've said earlier that you should love everyone else in your life, including you yourself. God is the judge and Jesus will come down the second time again to judge everyone on earth. that's the judgement day.



you're not alone and not the only one who is going through all these; be a sensible kid to your mom, and i'm sure she'll feel very richly blessed and much happier that way despite the many ups and downs in her life. at least she wont feel that her effort into working so many hours has gone down the drain, and that you and your siblings are sensible and are independant. keep strong my friend. i'm glad to have come across someone who needs help that i can give to.





just two verses from the bible that might push you along the rocky road.



Proverbs 3:5-6

"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not on thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths."



you think loving everyone is impossible? read this:

Philippians 4:13

"I can do all things through Christ which strengthenth me."





thanks for taking time to really read this super long reply. anything you need to know you can email me. :)